Helping Your Child Get Ready to Go Back to School: Practical Tips That Work

Going back to school can bring excitement- but also nerves, resistance, and big emotions. Whether your child is starting a new class, a new school, or just coming back after holidays, preparation makes a big difference.

Here are some simple, research-informed strategies parents can use to make the transition smoother.

1. Start Routines Early

Children feel safer when they know what to expect.

About 1–2 weeks before school starts:

• Gradually adjust bedtime and wake-up times.

• Practice the morning routine (getting dressed, breakfast, packing bag).Keep the steps the same each day.

The more familiar the routine feels, the less stressful the first day will be.

2. Practice the “Tricky” Moments

Think about what might be hard:

• Separating at drop-off

• Walking into the classroomAsking the teacher for help

• Talking to classmates

You can role-play these at home in a light, playful way. Show your child what to say, let them practice, and praise their effort. Even older children benefit from practising ahead of time.

3. Talk Through What to Expect

Uncertainty can increase anxiety. Help your child picture the day:

• What will the morning look like?

• Who will they see?

• What happens after school?

If possible, visit the school or look at photos online. The more familiar it feels, the more confident your child will be.

4. Praise Effort and Bravery

Going back to school can take courage.

Instead of focusing only on unhelpful behaviour, notice and praise effort:

• “I saw you walk into school even though you felt nervous.”

• “You got ready so quickly this morning.”

Children are more likely to repeat behaviours that get parental attention.

5. Teach Coping Skills Before They’re Needed

Don’t wait for a meltdown to talk about calming down.

Practice:

• Slow breathing

• Asking for a break

• Positive self-talk (“I can handle this.”)

Keep it simple and practice when your child is calm.

6. Plan for After-School Decompression

School takes a lot of energy- socially, emotionally, and mentally.

Many children need:

• Quiet time

• A snackMovement or outdoor play

• Minimal demands for the first 20–30 minutes

Building this into your routine can prevent afternoon struggles.

7. Stay Calm and Confident

Children pick up on adult emotions. If parents appear worried or uncertain, children may feel less secure.

Use calm, confident language:

• “School starts on Monday. We’ll get ready together.”

• “It’s okay to feel nervous. You can handle it.”

Adult confidence builds child confidence.

Key Points

Preparation reduces stress. Practice routines, talk through expectations, reinforce bravery, and stay calm. These small steps can make a big difference in helping your child start the school year feeling capable and supported.